As I start my next rotation, family medicine (don't ask me the difference between that and internal medicine...because theres not much of a difference), I'm looking forward to my vacation at the end...a nice week off and the majority of it spent in miami/fort lauderdale area...finally a chance to get away from this endless, wintry black hole, that we call new jersey. And then one last rotation after that, and I'm one year from becoming a doctor. Wow that went by quick...
anyways, I kind of wanted to dedicate this post to some of our generations misinterpretations of relationships. From my own accounts and from what I've seen over the years with my friends, it seems that people seem to lose the idea of communication. In theory, laying out the "rules" up front when you meet someone may be more beneficial than trying to think through what is going on between people and their interactions. You can't always assume what the other person is feeling/thinking/doing. Doing so could end up with false ideas. It's so much better to talk and ask questions-communication is one of the very first things we learn when we're born, yet it is so quickly lost and hard to do when you want or need (paraphrased quote from an end of a previously communicationless relationship). Thus being true, it's really important to talk to people about feelings.
Second thought I have, is that people can't hit the ground running with new relationships (especially you girls). I understand it's "hard to meet a nice guy" but when you do come across one, don't make it seem that you need them to talk to you as if you were boyfriend/girlfriend already--give some space, especially if you both are busy, because for it will keep them interested longer. And just because a guy is nice to you, doesn't mean he automatically wants to date you! [Girls in our generation totally end up acting like that (maybe its only the ones i meet...idk) but really think about it, and talk to the person, ask what they're looking for; its really not that hard to do.]acting so, is an automatic turn off and bye bye goes the relationship. Be witty, don't be desperate; be outgoing, but not a whore (atleast right off the bat); be conservative (at first), don't be shy.
For me, yea I'm definitely always looking for the next girlfriend, but doesn't mean that every girl i meet is gonna be it; it's gonna take some time for you to get to know me, for me to get to know you. Its a dynamic process that actually does change from girl to girl. For one thing though, if I am totally interested but I feel that there is nothing from their part that is showing interest, I won't even bother any longer (start the lighter and there go the bridges).
So, I think from here-on-out, I will start relationships first and foremoest with a list of things i expect out of it:
Second thought I have, is that people can't hit the ground running with new relationships (especially you girls). I understand it's "hard to meet a nice guy" but when you do come across one, don't make it seem that you need them to talk to you as if you were boyfriend/girlfriend already--give some space, especially if you both are busy, because for it will keep them interested longer. And just because a guy is nice to you, doesn't mean he automatically wants to date you! [Girls in our generation totally end up acting like that (maybe its only the ones i meet...idk) but really think about it, and talk to the person, ask what they're looking for; its really not that hard to do.]acting so, is an automatic turn off and bye bye goes the relationship. Be witty, don't be desperate; be outgoing, but not a whore (atleast right off the bat); be conservative (at first), don't be shy.
For me, yea I'm definitely always looking for the next girlfriend, but doesn't mean that every girl i meet is gonna be it; it's gonna take some time for you to get to know me, for me to get to know you. Its a dynamic process that actually does change from girl to girl. For one thing though, if I am totally interested but I feel that there is nothing from their part that is showing interest, I won't even bother any longer (start the lighter and there go the bridges).
So, I think from here-on-out, I will start relationships first and foremoest with a list of things i expect out of it:
- I'm looking to have fun; i take things day by day, its rele difficult for me to see where my life is going to be in 1 year, let alone a relationship with someone. Don't think I wanna be in a serious committed relationship off the bat, because I don't. I just want to meet someone at this point in my life where I can have a good time with. Nobody's in love...
- I'm a busy person so don't act as if me not responding to a text message equals me ignoring you. If you start out on that foot, it's definitely the wrong foot. Take things as they come, don't twist what's really happening into something that is totally not there.
- Show me interest--as stated before if I don't feel like I am liked, i will not pursue any further. Waste of energy.
Anyways i just got back from the knicks game, and have a long commute to Lebanon tomorrow for my new rotation. Until next time...peace
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